PAANO LABANAN ANG LUNGKOT, PANGUNGULILA NG MAWALAY SA PAMILYA (HOMESICKNESS)

Maharlika Reynoso
is a Banker in Germany

How to fight loneliness and depression when working abroad or overseas


Marami sa ating mga kababayang Pilipino ang nangingibang bansa para lang matustusan ang pangangailangan ng kanilang pamilya. Ngunit hindi walang hirap at sakripisyo ang pinagdaanan ng mga overseas Filipinos sa ibang bansa. Isa sa mga hirap sa mga pinoy na nangingibang bansa ay ang ang pagiisa, pangungulila sa bayan at ang lungkot ng mawalay sa pamilya.

Ang homesickness o ang pangungulila sa bayan at pamilya ay nangyayari kapag nararamdaman mo na nami-miss mo ang iyong mga magulang, kamag-anak, asawa, anak, pamilya, at mga kaibigan. Yung parang pakiramdam mo ay nagiisa ka at wala mga mahal mo sa buhay na makausap at makasama. Iba’t ibang dahilan kung bakit nagkaka homesick ang isang tao: Culture shock sa bagong lugar at mga tao, hindi sanay na mawalay sa kaibigan at mahal sa buhay, sanay sa sariling bahay at kapaligiran sa Pilipinas. Ayon sa pananaliksik ng mga eksperto, hindi lamang pagkabalisa ang epekto ng homesickness kundi nakakasira rin ito ng kalusugan ng tao at nakaka-apekto rin sa kanyang pagiisip at mental focus.


Ibabahagi natin dito ang iilang mga techniques upang mabawasan ang pagka homesick mo at masanay sa iyong bagong paligid:


1. Pasyalan ang mga tourist attractions ng bansa – Tuwing may oras o dayoff ka, pumunta sa mga kilalang lugar at tanawin doon sa ibang bansa upang matutunan mo ang kasaysayan at kultura nito. Makakatulong ito madagdagan ang iyong kaalaman at edukasyon, at maintindihan mo rin lalo ang kagandahan ng bansang tinutuluyan.


2. Mag-share ng pictures – Kumuha ng mga litrato doon sa ibang bansa at ibahagi ito a mga pamilya at kaibigan sa Facebook, email, o iba pang mga social networking sites. Magkakaroon ka ng pagkakaabalahan kapag nalulungkot ka at magkakaroon ka ng chance din para makapagugnayan sa mga mahal mo sa buhay.


3. Subukan ang mga ibang pagkain sa ibang bansa – Kahit masarap ang mga pagkaing pinoy, nakakawili rin ang matutunan at matikman ang mga pagkain sa ibang bansa. May maikwekwento ka rin sa mga kamaganak ng mga ibang pagkain dyan.


4. Mag-exercise palagi – base sa pananaliksik ng mga eksperto, nakakatulong ang ehersisyo na labanan ang pagka-homesick at nakakapampalakas din ito ng ating kalusugan.


5. Maghanap ng mga kaibigan – Makakatulong kapag mayroon kang support group o mga kaibigan sa ibang bansa, upang may malapitan ka rin kapag nalulungkot o may problema. Kapag walang kang kilalang mga pinoy sa iyong trabaho, meron mga grupo/organizations/clugbs sa ibang bansa kung saan makakakilala ka ng ibang mga kababayan natin: http://buhayofw.com/categories/local-organizations


6. Maghanap ng libangan o hobbies – Halimbawa, kapag mahilig ka magbasketball, maghanap ng mga friendly games na pwedeng salihan sa iyong lugar o maaaring may mga liga rin para sa mga pinoy sa ibang bansa. Ganun din kapag mahilig ka sa chess, pwede ka rin maghanap ng kalaro, kahit na mga dayuhan.


7. Positive thinking – Imbis na panay “Nagiisa lang ako dito” ang sinasabi sa sarili, isipin mo na “Madami rin ako pwedeng matutunan at karanasan dito na mapupulot at pwede maibahagi sa pamilya ko at kaibigan paguwi ko sa Pilipinas.” Maganda rin magsulat sa isang notebook na gawing journal ng iyong karanasan at pananaw, upang may mapagkabalahan ka rin at pwede mong ibahagi sa iba.



As such we have come up with several ways to reduce feelings of isolation, all of which have positive and negative aspects.


Feelings of loneliness don’t have to be constant to call for action, but you will need to give yourself a push to get back into the thick of life and re-engage with others to start feeling better.


Whether you’re feeling lonely now or just know how it feels, you may get an emotional boost from befriending someone else who’s lonely. Some people may view loneliness as contagious, and therefore lonely people often become even more isolated.


Turn being alone into a positive. Do things you enjoy doing alone, like reading or walking. But make it part of your routine to be around people. Join a club, volunteer. If all else fails, have dinner at the bar in your favorite restaurant. Talk to the bartender.


Science reveals that social interaction can help us live healthier, happier, and longer lives. Yet too many of us are missing out on chances for connection.


Tandaan na kahit nasa ibang bansa ka at malayo sa mahal sa buhay, pwede mo pa rin ma-enjoy ang iyong pag-stay sa dayuhang bansa at mapulutan ng aral at dunong na maaring ibahagi sa iba.



The importance of learning about foreign cultures is well known nowadays. With the ongoing globalization any kind of interactions between human beings of different cultures is increasing. As a result, people put more and more effort into the process of learning foreign languages. Different fields such as healthcare, education, business, culture, politics, legal and scientific research are affected by the significance of foreign languages. Culture influences how people interact with each other. In the business world, culture guides decision-making, behavior, thinking patterns and values.

Foreign culture learning opens our minds to new cultures and new ways of thinking. It gives us the chance to consider foreign cultures against our own values and traditions and gives us a deeper respect for our multi-faceted world. Through language learning, we are exposed to a different set of customs, traditions, aesthetics, cuisines, philosophies, politics, and histories.

Cultural differences also mean different social behaviour and different ways of communicating, even if people speak the same language. This often leads to misunderstandings in communication that is caused not necessarily by language/translation problems but by different social acting, as this also depends from our cultural backgrounds.

It can also make your resume look better. With globalization in full swing, there's a good chance you'll be working with people whose first language isn't English. Maybe it's a development team in India, or a manufacturing plant in China, or an alternative energy supplier in Germany; being able to communicate in other languages makes you much more valuable to an employer.

Exploring new cultures widens horizons and gives personal experiences. A rewarding parts of learning foreign languages is that it helps us to make connections with people overseas. It is amazing how people’s perception of a foreigner abroad changes when they speak the language of the host foreign country. It can transform the way people perceives you from an outsider to a friend. It allows a foreigner to build trust more quickly and to establish a stronger relationship with people. Also, we are showing respect to the mother countries of these languages.


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Maharlika Reynoso

Profession: Banker
Germany , Hesse , Frankfurt

 

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